Sunday, November 11, 2012

Flustered

I totally understand why many people keep their band to themselves. I don't even have one (yet) and I have recieved mostly positive responses but also a few negative responses from the few people that I have talked to about it. I've tried to keep it on the "DL" and just have told my close circle of friends. I love all of my friends dearly and they are all entitled to their opinion- but I am letting you know about a major decision I am making to change my life for the better, I am not asking for your opinion and if I didn't ask for it then please don't give it to me.

One of my friends who has also struggled with her weight had a tummy tuck years ago and asked why I didn't just do that. Well guess what, a tuck doesn't help you to change the way you think about food. A tuck does not help you face your food demons. It only changes your exterior - needless to say she has since gained back the fat that was cut away.
 
Today I was texting with a friend of mine- the same friend that I went to the original seminar with. I was letting her know that I have my surgery consultation tomorrow, she wished me luck and after I asked if her new insurance would cover it she said yeah, but that a friend of hers that had it (the band)didn't recommend it because he thinks it wont work long term and that she was rethinking her decision....Really? I so wanted to lay into her and explain that it is only part of the process and is to be used as 'tool' to aid in weight loss and is not a miracle that keeps the fat off forever. You have to use the band along with exercise and proper food choices and yes it takes time and work, but it's worth it to be healthy. I know that there are many people out there that the band has not helped but mainly because they thought it would do all the work. But instead of getting into a texting argument I ended our conversation with 'Ok'.

Since receiving the call from the weight loss center that my insurance would cover the majority of the cost I have been reading blogs, books, websites, message boards and watched you tube videos about the band; I know the pros and the cons. I know that there are risks of complications, infection at the incision sites, slippage and erosion, not to mention the needle piercing through my port to "fill" me up. But I am ready, mentally and physically. I am doing this for me and my health. I want to be around for along time- I mean honestly the world would be pretty dull place without me in it.  I have talked with my husband, my kids, my primary doctor and my close circle of friends and have their total support- not that that would sway my desicion, but it is nice to have.

So how do you deal with the little bits, or lotta bits of negative input about your decision?

Thanks for reading, have a great night